A man with an erect penis is a man who is ready to get down to business, but that "let's get it started" attitude can lead to any number of foreplay mistakes and therefore to sex that may be satisfying only for one of the participants – namely, the one with the appendage that was in such a hurry. While there are other factors (such as maintaining appropriate penis health) that are important to a couple's sex life, avoiding foreplay mistakes is necessary for long-term sexual compatibility.
With that in mind, the following are a few common foreplay mistakes that a man should avoid, painfully erect penis or not.
1) Not engaging in foreplay.
This is really a no-brainer. While it's true that there are some couples who are so well-matched that they can almost always skip foreplay and have a mutually satisfying sexual experience, these couples are few and far between. For most couples, some form of foreplay is necessary most of the time if both partners are going to get the most out of the experience.
2) Going by the book.
Some guys think they have the foreplay thing all figured out and follow the same routine each time with little or no variation. This may work sometimes, but it won't always. A woman, like a man, tends to feel differently from moment to moment, so there's no reason to assume that the routine that worked last night is going to work tonight. Guys need to try to be "in the moment" and attuned to how the partner is reacting to each kiss, caress and whisper so they can alter their approach in response to her reactions.
3) Being too narrowly focused.
Because a guy is interested in letting his partner's vagina envelop that aching erect penis, he tends to focus most, if not all, of his attention on his lady's crotch. There's some benefit in that, but most women prefer more of a "total body" approach: plenty of kissing and hugging; a minimum amount of vocal communication; and touching other areas, such as the breasts, the buttocks, the arms, etc.
4) Talking too little – or too much.
As mentioned above, a minimum amount of vocal communication is an essential part of foreplay. Exactly how much will vary from person to person. Some women like a little dirty talk; some like a lot; some are repulsed by it. Some women love compliments about their looks, their aroma, their skin, their hair, their ardor; others find it clichéd. Guys will need to experiment with finding the right topics and then figure out how much to say for maximum effect with any given partner.
5) Applying too much pressure.
Sometimes men get a little too intense with their foreplay; the touches and fondles exert too much physical pressure and go from producing pleasurable sensations to creating pain. A man needs to always be sensitive to how his partner is reacting so he can adjust his actions accordingly. And remember, it's always okay to ask, "Does this feel alright?" or, "Would you like me to do anything differently?"
6) Sporting an unappealing tool.
Although men focus on their equipment constantly, they don't always give it the appraising look it needs. A penis that has flaky skin patches or that emits an unpleasant smell is going to be a turn-off to partners.
Avoiding foreplay mistakes takes practice, but attending to an unappealing tool requires a little extra help. If a man's erect penis has skin irritation or a disturbing odor, he can start using a quality penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). For best results, he should find a cream that packs in a combination of moisturizers, such as Shea butter (a high-end emollient) and vitamin E (a natural hydrator). Unwanted penis odor can be addressed if the cream also contains vitamin A, which is blessed with strong anti-bacterial properties that attack causes of distressing odors.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common penis health issues, tips on improving penis sensitivity, and what to do to maintain a healthy penis. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.